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If ever I am banned:

Do not throw yourself at the problem. Most likely I deserved it, and if someone made a mistake your rabble-rousing will do nothing to help the situation.

Really try to figure out what I did before you say anything in my defense. Easiest way? Click reply on any of the comments on my front page, change the settings as follows:

View: [Flat] // [Newest First] Limit: 100

In this way you'll be able to see the past 100 comments, usually enough to catch the moment of banning, and often enough to see hints that it's coming.

(And with the new posting restrictions, this should be an even easier task, though sometimes you'll still have to dig)

If people are angry, let them be. It's just how it works, you know? People like to yell and spit and scream, and far, far more horrible things happen everyday, in real life.

And, in general

Get over it, and give back
I am tired and bordering on misanthropy. The link you'll see in the header really brought me back to myself a little though. It's painfully rare that anyone steps forward with the intent of giving to DA, of being strong in accordance with policy. How often does someone shrug off a small slight or inconvenience? Typically it is railed about and on and on. Myself, I also have my frustrations here once in a while. But they are always tempered by the love for the institution and the community.

Profanity is the antithesis to specificity
In a conflict with someone? Stop cursing. Whatever, use it off-hand in everyday life, riddle your every breath with them, I don't care, but when it matters, when tone is as important as the message, don't use them. If you want someone to actually hear what you're saying, be quiet and specific. And if they don't feel like listening? Take solace that other people are. Most everything that goes on here is public, people take note, and it's quite refreshing to see someone rational in the middle of cruelty and furor.

Log Off
For a day or two, or a week, or even a month if that's what it comes to. Persue the tangible things in life. I think we accomplish great things here, and I've been happier than I've known as an almost direct result of DA. However, if you get pent up here too long, start only fighting to achieve things in this world online, then you'll lose track of some pretty basic things. There is no fight to be king of the hill here, no reason for supremacy of any kind. Because when it comes right down to it, very few people are in a position to have DA be their life. So, in the mean time, don't forget to live yours.

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Be my friend now. Let me have my anger and frustration. Let me get upset and wallow in the melodrama for today. Then, when I come back to you, I can be done with it. I can sit together and honestly see more in you than you see in yourself.